Over a decade of having to deal with sect politics keeps him from rubbing his face. He understands why Lan Zhan is so reluctant.

That doesn't mean it isn't immensely frustrating. He's watched Wei Wuxian follow Lan Zhan around like a lost duckling, all big eyes and quick smiles. This is not the fearsome Yiling Patriarch, calling up an army of the dead to take his vengeance. This is not an uninterested man, taking what help he can get to survive. They could be happy. Is it such a crime to want his brother to be happy?

"And you will speak to him... when you've both gone grey?"